Have you ever been disciplined by “the switch?” In some cultures or families and about two generations ago, the mere mention of “the switch” would send chills of fear up a child’s back with the thought of being punished with a thwack of a stick on their bottom. Back then, to discipline meant to spank […]
In my previous post, 3 Types of Mommy Guilt, I described the pangs, pokes, and pressures that contribute to mommy guilt. If you’re a mom, this guilt can come at you not just from your daughter but also from your own mother. The internal and external comments that get hurled at you can seep into […]
Do You Argue With Your Daughter? Ever say “one thing” to your daughter and, before you know it, you find that you are unable to stop arguing with your daughter? Like the world war splattering of shots, explosions, shrapnel, and tear gas (with even some crying at times) words, stares, and body language become an […]
Stopping any kind of abuse is an admirable goal. My Patois-accented Jamaican mother would tell me about life and say, “Prevent(ion) is better than (a) cure.” To me that phrase meant that if I took steps to lessen the likelihood of an adverse occurrence, then things would be way better for me. However, my mom was […]
“Nothing can prepare you for childbirth” and “There’s no manual for raising kids” are a comments I’ve often heard from mothers. Comments are nice, but it’s not until you’ve been in the thick of motherhood that you really begin to understand what they mean. That being said, then how does one prepare for being […]
Have you ever watched the waves come up onto the shoreline? If you look very closely, as the swells get closer to shore, the waves come in clusters of three. The same can be said for listening. The closer you want to get to someone, the more you’ll need to do the following three […]
In a prior blog post I shared on LinkedIn, I discussed how Listening Comes in 3s. Now, let’s look at how to apply those three ways of listening physiologically, volitionally, and emotionally more effectively. Remember the three waves? So, when you are listening in the emotional realm, there are three key questions to […]
For those of you who are parents of infants, you may be wondering, “What do any of the ‘parenting teens’ pointers have to do with me?” Well, I am glad that you are wondering about those things because much of what you do during infancy lays a foundation for later dynamics during the teen years.
Hopefully, you’ve had a chance to listen to your teenager after taking time to “just notice” the rhythm of your family’s week and making observations about how your son or daughter is handling the lull moments of your home. How did it go?
Many parents of teenagers think their teens don't listen to them. While a teen's "selective" listening can be frustrating, the complaint most teens express (in therapy or another "safe place") is that they don't feel their parents are listening to them.