Estranged

My mom and I were estranged. People look (and still look) at me strangely when I tell them I didn’t go wedding dress shopping with my mom. Am I a bad daughter because of that? No. Why? Because I was being responsible to keep myself safe. Safety is something every daughter needs. And when a […]

Five Questions That Will Fix Mother-Daughter Conflict

Have you ever found yourself in the middle of a conflict with your daughter, and the way it ended did not feel right? The situation had you wondering about every interaction you’ve had and if there is anything that will fix your mother-daughter conflict. If that is the case, here are five essential open-ended questions […]

Beauty Make-Up Cosmetics & “The Boundaries”

The first time I heard the song, ‘Break Up to Make Up’ on the radio, I knew that the song by The Stylistics was really about relationships. Nevertheless, when it came to me and my mom, we had this kind of love-hate thing going on in our relationship. As her daughter, I was so beautiful […]
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3 Keys to Raising Your Tween/Teen Daughter & Staying Connected

Raising tween/teen daughters and staying connected can feel like a daunting task at times. I have covered different topics relating to mothering with purpose and informed intentions, which involves learning lessons from past years and determining how are we are going to parent our daughters with purpose in mind. How do you go about raising […]

The Top 2 Problematic Mother Daughter Relationship Patterns

There are 4 distinctive patterns of interactions that mothers and daughters display, but here are the two most common relational patterns with mother daughter relationships that I have come across. You can read about all 4 patterns in my book, ‘What Mothers Never Tell Their Daughters.’ Pattern #1: Mom-In-Daughter™ Relationship There are common statements mothers […]
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How To Stop Overcompensating As A Mom

Overcompensating is a balm not just for lips but for a woman’s heart. It is the main way that women, and mom in particular, deal with the comparison and criticism they face daily.   When a daughter does not feel and experience the safety, security, & satiety she needs from her mom, that usually leads […]

7 Steps to Empty-Nesting Success (Part 1)

  Most people think that to empty-nesting with your daughter means you have to lose your connection with her in the process. But that’s not true. In fact, maintaining a connection with your daughter during this transition will go better if you address the 7 items on this Empty-Nesting checklist.  In today’s blog, I’ll cover […]
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The #1 Secret Every Mom Needs To Know

If you really want to know how to feel guilt-free about your mothering, then pay careful attention to this secret.   The #1 Secret Is: Enough With The ‘noughs   The bottom line with this is whenever you feel yourself thinking that you are either not good enough, not doing enough, or not being enough, […]
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How To Be Present In Your Daughter’s Life

What’s brown and green and not looking right all over? That’s what I asked myself as I recently looked at my plant. And that’s what I also asked myself as I looked at what my daughter was displaying. No mom ever expects her plant — or her daughter — to start displaying “brown spots.” And even […]
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4 More Motherhood Lessons Learned From Potting Plants

In a prior blog, I recounted what my eldest daughter (Candace) taught me about the process of potting plants and I shared what motherhood lessons I learned from that experience. Today, I wanted to share 4 more motherhood lessons I learned from the whole plant-potting experience when it comes to parenting my twin daughters. Be […]