Estranged

My mom and I were estranged. People look (and still look) at me strangely when I tell them I didn’t go wedding dress shopping with my mom. Am I a bad daughter because of that? No. Why? Because I was being responsible to keep myself safe. Safety is something every daughter needs. And when a […]
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3 Keys to Raising Your Tween/Teen Daughter & Staying Connected

Raising tween/teen daughters and staying connected can feel like a daunting task at times. I have covered different topics relating to mothering with purpose and informed intentions, which involves learning lessons from past years and determining how are we are going to parent our daughters with purpose in mind. How do you go about raising […]

The Top 2 Problematic Mother Daughter Relationship Patterns

There are 4 distinctive patterns of interactions that mothers and daughters display, but here are the two most common relational patterns with mother daughter relationships that I have come across. You can read about all 4 patterns in my book, ‘What Mothers Never Tell Their Daughters.’ Pattern #1: Mom-In-Daughter™ Relationship There are common statements mothers […]
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How To Have RACE Talks With Your Kids_Part 2

Talking about race with your kids requires reasoning skills.   It also requires that you understand what your kid’s racial development needs.   Feeling Caught In The Middle With A Middle Schooler?   As children enter their middle school years, their prefrontal cortex is still developing. Academic demands begin to require more independent management of […]
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How To Have RACE Talks With Your Kids_Part 1

You can’t tell a book by its cover. Nor can you (really) appreciate or understand a book by reading the Cliff Notes.   It can be hard to race through a book and something meaningful out of it.   Moms are “teachers” in and often set the tone of their home.   Get On Your […]
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How To Be Present In Your Daughter’s Life

What’s brown and green and not looking right all over? That’s what I asked myself as I recently looked at my plant. And that’s what I also asked myself as I looked at what my daughter was displaying. No mom ever expects her plant — or her daughter — to start displaying “brown spots.” And even […]
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4 More Motherhood Lessons Learned From Potting Plants

In a prior blog, I recounted what my eldest daughter (Candace) taught me about the process of potting plants and I shared what motherhood lessons I learned from that experience. Today, I wanted to share 4 more motherhood lessons I learned from the whole plant-potting experience when it comes to parenting my twin daughters. Be […]

5 Essential Steps For Potting Plants

To pot or not to pot? Is that really the question? Whether ‘twas nobler for the life of my plant to suffer my constant watering or take refuge in my trashcan, I cannot say. But, what I can say that I don’t claim to have a green thumb. Yet somehow, plants just seem to grow […]
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To Practice Or Not To Practice…With The Team

When the leaves changed in October 2018, so did my approach with my eldest daughter regarding team practice. I’d been upstairs doing some work and I heard the door open in the front of the house. Both of my daughters came home through the door. I was only expecting one of them—my youngest, Jasmine—to be […]
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Motherhood and Madden Football: Lessons Learned

  Motherhood and Madden Football are more than Xs and Os. Madden football taught me four important lessons about how to mother my daughters–and it’s not just hugs and kisses.   Lesson #1: Decisions. Decisions. I had to decide on my storage capacity. Upgrading my smartphone allowed me to increase the amount of storage space […]